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HETEROSEXUAL MALE FANTASY – PLAYING THE WOMAN

As a straight man, sometimes I want to play the roll of the girl in a heterosexual encounter. I want to imagine my female fantasy-self being fucked by a fit guy.

A CROSS SEXUAL FANTASY

It should be noted that I do not regard this as a homosexual fantasy. The encounter involves a man having sex with a woman. Since the fantasy does not involve two men, I don’t see it as a gay fantasy, at least not in it’s pure sense. Although others are welcome to disagree.

Also, I am not attracted to men in real life. Indeed, this has caused issues problems in immersing myself in the fantasy as I don’t want to imagine myself being with real life men. But I have found solutions to this problem and will discuss it later.

I would also note that I do have one rather restricted male/male fantasy which I would regard as homosexual in nature. But even that does not involve real life men. However, I will not discuss that here.

There is one scenario where the encounter could be regarded as homosexual, and that is where I engage in a lesbian fantasy. However, since this involves a man fantasising about a female having sex with another female, the homosexual nature of the encounter is not clear, at least from the man’s perspective.

Neither is it a trans-sexual fantasy. I am happy being a man in real life and have no desire to transform into a woman. There are various reasons that are practical and philosophical for this.

If anything, I would define the fantasy as cross-sexual as I am temporarily crossing over. The elements of both heterosexuality and homosexuality are present in the fantasy, but is not fully either.

WHAT IS THE APPEAL OF THE FANTASY

So what is the appeal of this fantasy? There are a number of factors.

Playing the object of my own desires

While playing the woman, I am taking the role of a person who I would desire as a man. I am attracted to woman and their bodies. I like how they look and feel. In the fantasy I can take the role of a woman with such a body myself. I can create fantasy people who I would like to be successful with as a man. In doing so, I effectively fulfill my male fantasies.

Satisfying my fetishes

As a man, I have certain fetishes and preferences relating to sex acts and clothing. I have generally not been able to engage with these in real life for various reasons. Of course, whenever I play a woman, she will wear the clothes I find attractive as a man and enjoy the sex acts that appeal to me as a man. In consequence, the sexual encounter will effectively be perfect because the fantasy woman I am playing will meet and be fulfilled by the man’s desires.

The perception that sex is better and easier for woman

Now this is a controversial reason. I have a perception that, when sex is done well, the woman enjoys it more. To be honest, I have no idea if it is true, but this perception partially drives the appeal of this fantasy. I know that sex is often not good for women in many cases in real life. But in terms of this fantasy, the woman I play always gets the best experience out of the encounter

Self-insert

Another good reason is that a version of my real male self can be inserted in the fantasy. This means that in a round-about way, I get to succeed with the women I most desire, fulfilling my male sexual preferences and fetishes. There are other advantages to this which I will discuss later.

Developing Self-awareness

This is more of an incidental benefit, but it is still interesting. When playing the woman, I do get an insight into what it is like to be a woman and wear woman’s clothes. For example, as a man I find tights sexy. But when play the woman, the act of wearing tights may actually feel quite mundane, especially as tights are actually a rather common piece of clothing.

I also get awareness about myself as a man. I start to ask questions about whether I would be attracted to myself in real life. Sometimes the answers to these questions can be equally insightful and unsettling.

PROBLEMS WITH IMMERSION IN THE FANTASY

The biggest problem I initially found with the fantasy is who should play the role of the male.

I do not feel comfortable imagining either real men, or even fictional male characters, for two reasons. Firstly, I am not attracted sexually to men and that causes an issue in playing out the fantasy, as I feel uncomfortable or even repulsed at the idea of having sex with a real man. Secondly, I don’t like the idea that real or even fictional men should succeed with the gorgeous fantasy women I’m playing, even if the act is imaginary. The problem is that I see these males as rivals and don’t want them to succeed with the gorgeous woman I created.

Another solution is to imagine the man is faceless. However, this mean the male partner lacks character, spoiling the immersion.

But I have found two broad solutions.

Firstly, as mentioned above, I insert a version of myself into the fantasy. It is of course a more muscular and confident version of myself. But it is recognisable as me. I find I have no issue in imagining a version of myself lusting over and having sex with the female character I have created. This is an ideal solution. Not only is it effectively an act of self-love, but it also means I am fulfilling my ultimate desires through the female role I am playing.

However, it’s good to have some variety and the male partner and that brings me to the second solution: Fictional character customisation.

Many video games allow you to create your own characters, including choosing their facial features and hair. I have no issue with imagining having sex with a fictional male character I have created myself. He is purely fictional and has a personality I have created. Thus he not a perceived rival. Thus my female self can bang him without issue.

Anyway, these are my thoughts on playing the girl as a heterosexual male. Please feel free to engage in a conversation or ask questions in the comments, if that appeals to you.